Are you Top or bottom?

In my 8 years of being a tgirl i always prefer to become bottom and i ignore my sexual pleasure in life. even though i get sexual contact with someone i always ignore to cum also. only my partner will cum but not me. and now i am thinking if is it right of what i am doing in my life?

WRONG!!

Sex is meant to mutually satisfying, not for one party alone.

For most, sex is only a turn-on and, indeed, satisfying, if one's partner too is enjoying themselves. ...Or at least, for those who want more than a 'warm hole'; in which case, if that's all they're after, a self-respecting person should not be sleeping with them in the first place. Right?

I couldn't imagining having sex with someone who just lies there like a stunned mullet or looks like they're waiting for me to finish! The mere thought is detumescing! Hence why I'd never use a prostitute...

Not only that, but depriving yourself of the true pleasure of love-making for sake of some odd hang-up or insecurity is defeating the entire point of being in an intimate relationship in the first place. May as well remain only platonic friends then and save yourself the 'mess'!

Do i deserve being treated like that? now a days in our country its really hard to find someone who really understand you. on what making love means to me. my friends wondering how can i survive in that situation. i want to make change in my life now i just dont know where to start =(

I have to agree wholeheartedly with Salacious. I think it is time you find a way to better your situation. Don't let someone get too sexual or physical until you know how they feel about you and what they really want from a relationship with you. Once you are secure with someone then you can let go of your "reservations" HAHA!

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Since I haven't already had a ts girlfriend yet, please let me ask this "beginner's" question: So, you are either on top and satisfying your sexual appetite, or you are on bottom and only serving as a "sex toy"? Does being on bottom automatically mean you won't reach an orgasm? Or is it a matter of how you do it?

Of course a simple "yes" or "No" would be an awfully funny answer, but i hope maybe one or two of you would be kind and share their experiences.

i am a ts bottom and mybe i am called that i am used and being a sex toy only
im not enjoying it anymore

I know for a fact that being a bottom doesn't automatically determine you will not have any enjoyment. I know plenty of bottoms who enjoy allowing others to have control during sexual activities. The opposite can also be true. Someone who is used to being in control may not want to be sometimes and begins to lose some enjoyment even though they are the ones controlling sexual activity. Other variations exist like active bottoms who help control sexual activity even from below. It is a shared and mutual sexual control experience. There are so many ways to divide power and pleasure that people have to see what works for them and not be afraid, and not get trapped in the black and white ways where there are only two ways of doing stuff. Who knows, one day you might want to top and the next be bottom. Have fun, enjoy, that's what sex is for. Just be smart about it.

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Thanks, JJ. Indeed my question was meant that generally(which is due to the fact that i did not read this thread very carefully ) and that's exactly the answer i was looking for.

@Kimhell, i wish you all the best and just make your way. Stop allowing others to use you. And sorry that i kind of interfered in this thread.

goodness me Kimhell you have to remember you are a human being and should not be treated as just a sex toy. JJhunt makes some good points.