Looking in the mirror

Sorry to put every 1 on a downer but I guess this is the place to bear your soul & your fears, but do's any 1 else look in the mirror and wonder if they are ever going 2 be the woman they thought they were going 2 be, I've yet to tell my family about me, some close female friends know & a couple of male friends as well, but I look in the mirror & just see a man looking back, I so don't want to land up looking like a drag act, I've only ever wanted to b a woman, but I can't stand the thought of landing up like a cross between both sex's x

I think you are in the right place here. So Welcome! This forum is great for getting people with real life experince together to share and help eachother through stories and information and even opinions. There are also people like me who may not be transgender, but thanks to our lives, people around us, and possably experinces we show our support and offer what we can. With all that being said, I am sure with a little sopport from your friends both there with you in person and here with you online, you'll definatly be the person you want to be from the inside out, from you soul to your skin, with all the confidence you could want! I have confidence and hope that everyone in this world can be whom ever they are inside, on the outside, and everyone can accept eachother for that simple truth and honesty. We all may have different paths, but I think in a way we are all fighting for the same thing in the end, so we should all support eachother. Good luck Terry!!

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Thanks for ur advice and for ur warm heart, its nice to no longer be alone, we may only talk to each other over the net but its still wonderful to receive ur support xxx

I still remember the first time I looked in the mirror and saw a woman looking back. I woke up in the middle of the night to go to the toilet. On my way back I glanced at the bedroom mirror and in that instant saw myself as a woman. I even did a double take! I havn't looked back since.

M

I have a strange experience.. All my life before my tranformation, I know and I feel i born in a wrong body.. Always see myself as a girl in the mirror but from time to time I got stuck with my image as a boy.. most people says I'm passable and look pretty but the image that stuck in my head or eyes is still my old image(as a boy)... thats makes me have low self-esteem sometimes.. but deep in my heart I know I AM A GIRL, even i got image stuck sometimes my old image in my mind or even when look at the mirror..

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lovingsoul...
bad experienced I take it as a good lesson,
good times I saved it as good memories..

love, peace and happiness..

hmmm...
Have you discuss it with a psychologist?

Im not talking about pharmacy, just a discussion with a doctor.

As far as I remember (from your avatar) you look like a 100% woman . I couldnt see a "boy" there

Mr. Nice,

yep, I think I should discuss it with pshchologist or someone bout this issue..

I could say all people cant tell I'm a tgirl by looking at me or even talk with me.. just my internal conflict with myself or low confidence with myself..

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lovingsoul...
bad experienced I take it as a good lesson,
good times I saved it as good memories..

love, peace and happiness..

I think thats it. Low confidence.

Unless you feel comfortable and extremely ok with yourself, you wont pass this "stressful" situation/
A talk with a specialist might help you regain or acquire confidence.

You wont lose anything

I think we get so obsessed trying to look '100% female' that we start to fear the male part of ourselves. You have probably just become so focused on what you think is male about you that is all you can see. It's like a teenage girl with a little pimple who thinks she has Mt. Vesuvius on her chin.

Try focusing on the things you like instead of the things you don't like. You will be a lot happier and calmer in the long run.

M.

Hmmm... Just thinking about the last thing oztgirl posted made me think a little extra... I think that even inside every guy is some femininity, and inside every girl there is some masculinity... so I don't believe that we can or should try to eliminate an entire portion of what it is to be ourselves... Maybe it is because I'm up late at the moment, but I think that everyone is a combination of girl and guy inside. It's all just a matter of how much one way or the other. Maybe? Then again this was more about appearence wasn't it? So the inside dosen't count, because we all know who we are right? We just want the outside to represent the inside. I know the outside helps with ideas of confidence, but I must say I've seen more beautiful women here both inside and out than I have seen in any one area. But what I admire most is the courage and strength I get to see around here. It makes me happy to see such amazing things.

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