Sex on first dates?

Of course it is based on sexual attraction. Men fall in love with their eyes. Just because a man doesn't want to pursue a relationship with you doesn't lessen his desire for you. It just means he thinks your beautiful.

They way I look at it, I (or he) could get hit by a bus the next day and I could have missed out on a wonderful opportunity. As a society (and as women) we put so much pressure and meaning into sex and our sexual identity. The reality is, sex is just sex. Of course, sex is so much better when it is with someone special but doesn't mean we have to wait until we are in love to experience it.

I find TS (I include myself in this) get so caught up in fantasies that we end up denying ourselves one of the simple joys of life - intimacy with another human being.

but, yes, there are some 'sweet talkers' out there but I will not miss out on trying to find one of the genuine ones in the process.

M.

Hi folks,

I think it all comes down to the chemistry of the date. The moment, the mood, the attraction... I think I understand what LS is getting at in terms of intention. If a guy is there on a date purely to get sex, then it's not going to work long term. If however, the mood is right on the night, and the two of you end up in bed, that works.

I wouldn't expect sex on the first date, but I'd at least like to know where I stand emotionally.

and yeah, nightclubs are pretty lousy places to meet nice guys, but where alse can you meet people?

cheers,
Tony

YUP, I try to avoid keep in touch with guys I met in clubs.. Well guts always try to tell us if the person good or not.. i just listen to my guts..

Tony dear, where have you been? busy with work? happy to see posts from you again..

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This is hard for me to answer... I know what it is that I prefer, BUT I also can't ignore the idea that not everything goes the way we expect or want.

I really like to get to know someone a lot before I do anything serious with them expecialy something like sex. The only problem is that I've been a victim of getting caught in the moment of passion before, and when everything was said and done nothing went wrong for a long time afterwards and had nothing to do with making love after the first date.

I think I will officially say that I would not think any less of someone for having sex on the first date even if I'd prefer to wait... Also, I would like to keep an open mind and say that it could be possable to find your true love, get caught in the passion, have sex on the first date, and then stay with them for the rest of your life... Because hey, it's true love right?

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Busy with work, and getting my heart broken...oh well...good to be back.

thanks LS, good to see you here too.

cheers,
Tony

WELCOM

Hi Tony,

sorry to hear bout HB thing... wish you doing good there.. smile!

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lovingsoul...
bad experienced I take it as a good lessons,
good times I saved it as good memories..

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good question.

I don't think it's right to dictate how the body feels or emotions will be telling us--let things happen as it should be.

Men will always be men and I know for a fact that a simple dinner can lead into a more complete meal so to say with "dessert".(not literally speaking but i know you guys can catch up easily..sounds familiar?hormones rising? )but I am not generalizing men,i've known a few who respected me well on the first date. a kiss after dinner is enough or good enough then I get a ride home. Unfortunately we girls dont control the mind of the other person so if he starts to show something on his actions then the decision is with us to either give in or just call it a night and get a cab instead.

The latter happened to me only once and it was a mutual decision and I was not attracted to the man in the first place.

Kim

It is real nonsense to say we cannot do sex on the first date because of bla bla bla.
Where do we live? in the Middle Age. Also, why do only guys want to have sex on the first date? What rubbish!
Don't tell me there are no tgirls who like to have sex on the first date too.

It is always up to the mood, the attraction & the feelings and besides, having sex requires two people. But if everything works well and both of them want it at the first date, so why not.
And on the other hand, I'm not a tgirl and I don't know how do feel tgirls really but I don't want to suppress that tgirls actually are genetic boys. So may be tgirls perceive almost the same sexual urge like men if they fall in love. I don't know it.
Finally; a girl who comes together with a man for the first time will feel what that guy wants... he wants to get to know her or he wants just having an ONS with her.
There is no schedule for the first date anyway. What happens, that happens.

I have sex on first dates in case there isn't a second date!

TS are hormonally reassigned - we don't have the same sexual urges as men - trust me that goes. That doesn't mean we don't experience intense attraction and want sex based on looks although now that I am older I am less and less impressed by a cute guy and more and more impressed by a cute brain. It's always nice when the two come together.

I need more stimulation to get in the mood. I like conversation and kissing and cuddling and not to be rushed. Once in the mood, I go all out for him.