Best & Worst Thing About Being TS

I have been giving some thought to the pro's and con's of being a transexual. Anyone care to share their thoughts?

For Me:

Best: Shopping - Girls get to wear much better clothes than boys! Even at highschool, I was wearing women's perfume. I got caught putting it on by one of the senior boys. He looked at me and asked if that was girl's deodorant. I bravely said yes. He just looked at me and said, do you just prefer the smell of it? I said yes. He shrugged and walked off.

Worst: Loneliness - While I love my own space, I hate being alone. I get very lonely sometimes and I hate it. The worst thing is, hormones seem to amplify the loneliness because I get clingy almost daily when my hormones kick in. I have this craving to cuddle and be cuddled. Being alone is my worst fear in life so I try to think positive and hope one day I will meet someone to spend my life with. I make positive choices daily to improve the chances of that - like loosing weight. I want a man to be proud of me and not be embarrassed by me.

Best: compliments and attention but can't really say as being a TS coz some of guys that gives compliments didn't know bout my gender status.. another thing is, I can express real self, which is as women in every aspect..

Worst: Loneliness? can't run from it.. Fam can't accept me and thats my biggest lost in this world.. and sometimes I forgot that I'm a TS..

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lovingsoul...
bad experienced I take it as a good lessons,
good times I saved it as good memories..

love, peace and happiness..

Hi LovingSoul, yes, I like being able to express myself freely. I was talking to my psychiatrist about that on my last visit. I feel more comfortable expressing myself. Sometimes being a TS is like having a suit of armour on.

Yes, my family have nearly all rejected me to one degree or another. The only family members I have that call me Mame are the ones living in London and my Dad.

Mame

Hi Mame,

hmmm, i'll remember that next time I put on my armour... actually I'm serious...I'm in a medieval re-enactment society, and have spent many a weekend in armour. It can be isolating at times, but it's also comforting. Standing in a wall of other armoured fighters, surrounded on all sides, yet still in my own world. Feeling alone, yet I chose to be there, and I'm glad I made that choice.

And no, armour's not heavy...it's hot.

cheers,
Tony

Why is it that family seem to take the longest to accept any change in a person's sexuality or gender identity? Is it denial? Or is it just old-fashioned stereo-typing?

P

After 13 years, I doubt I will ever be accepted.

Perhaps because they've had the longest exposure to someone pre-transition, so have the most laid down memories and assumptions of someone's identity. More neurons to re-write I guess.

I think it may be a lack of neurons (and heart).

The previous posts make me want to weep. I'm sorry that we can't all be accepted for who we really are.

In response to the initial question, I want to add my two cents as Joie's mommy.
Pro:
*When Joie gets dressed now, she looks into the mirror and actually smiles! That is so new, it melts my heart every time I see her eyes light up like that.
*The transition itself has been fun... shopping, photo shoot, openly talking, all that stuff.
Sorry, but I just couldn't choose one "best thing."

Con:
*Significant fears of how she will be treated by her peers, particularly at school, and especially when she hits puberty.

I suppose I should say that I am thrilled and filled with terror for her in equal measure.

Venessia

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Joie and Venessia

This is how I feel. I find that the worst thing about being a transgender is employment discriminationin In the united states as well as just plain discrimination against the Transgender Community. How a country build on Give us your poor, your tired, your huddled masses longing to be free... and still discrimiate