Hi Sheira, I think you are being a little pessimistic. I don't believe love between a man and transexual is abnormal. Our societies see it as abnormal to varying degrees. The biggest culprit in propagating this view is religion. This is why I am a little hostile to religious types - but don't get me started on that!
I believe that transexualism is normal. It exists across all sections of human societies and animals. Some animal species even change sex as part of their normal development. Just as sexuality is seldom black & white, neither is gender.
I didn't say men only want sex. I said they want sex. Men are motivated by sex the same way women are motivated by love and affection.
I don't think men are hypocrites, however it should be noted that men are much more pragmatic when it comes to falling in love. Men will analyse and make a concious decision wether to allow themselves to fall in love. Women will do it without this process.
Just remember that genetic women spend a long time trying to find their ideal partner - there is no reason why we shouldn't have to go through that process either.
I think that there will be certain pressures on a relationship where one person is transgendered. Every relationship will have pressures. Yes, a man will have to at some stage face questions about his own sexuality because of his relationship with a transexual. Any man who thinks he won't is being naive. If the relationship is a good one then hopefully the benefits will worth it. If he has his wits around him he will realise that he gets to miss out on all the problems associated with a relationship with a woman.
Many men want kids, but there is no reason why he can't achieve this regardless. It is not uncommon in some countries for men to become fathers quite young. If you are lucky you may meet a man who already has kids. If not, then it may be the case a man will go outside the relationship to achieve this. This may cause feelings of jealousy but I don't believe I have the right to stop this and accept is as part of life. Anyway, if he has a child then he is less likely to want to get married to a genetic woman.
Sorry for my long winded post.
Human relationships are complex. Societies are changing. Who knows what will happen in the next ten years or so. It will take courage on the part of 'our boys' but I think some of them are up to it.
M.
