SEX OR LOVE

What might start as a sexual attraction very often develops in true and lasting love Miggan TS_Shiera,

That's a good possibility, I try never to rule anything out. Good thinking miggan.

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All anyone can be is themselves

You can have sex without love, for fun, for pleasure.
You can have love without sex, with deep feelings, where sex is not needed for this kind of relationship (although sex is needed for mental equilibrium )
You can have both, building a normal relationship.
I must agree on mane's POV about men & sex, we all want sex, for fun, pleasure, anything else, there's much purposes to sex. But, you present us as if we don't look for affection too, and, as a result, let think guys are only for sex, girls only for affection marks.
I'm not sure there's such a difference between girls & guys, we all seek sex and affection, but we all have our ways. Part of the ways cames from education et inheritance of past behaviors, other parts came from our inner animal instinct.

Whatever, sex & love in relationship must be protected, ehanced and cherished

Hi coyote76, I don't disagree with you. I didn't suggest men were sex maniacs. I think men want intimacy also. I think that men connect through sex. When (if) that connection is established, love can blossom. It is the other way around for women. When they know they are loved and accepted, they open up sexually.

After reading all this all I can say is that you should expect to be loved as any normal human, regardless of gender, race, religion etc. We're all people and if someone is so petty that they can't accept you for who you are then they are obviously a very small person who probably is trying to transfer their problems over to you.

Especially with the way that transgenderism has been portrayed as 'taboo' in scoiety, I think you deserve a standing ovation for being yourself and dealing with unnecessary and oft uneducated criticism.

You go girls!!

i would love to be loved ..
apparently , i feel that i almost giving up in finding love ..


men love me just for sex .. and i love sex definitely for money .. this is fair enough for myself in order to not being use by men

Shira, what do you really want? I think, nobody understands you.

hello Fonseca ..
wie gehts dir .. long time we didn't talk

what do i want ? i know what i want
only serious man will understand me ..
a man who really understand what have transsexual been through everyday and how hard is our living being a transsexual ..

its rare to find this type of man .. this is what i want and this is what im looking for

You can't expect a man to understand what we go through because they can't. They haven't lived our life. I also think it is a big ask to expect to bring that kind of burden into a relationship. That is too much baggage. When I close my door at night, I leave all that crap behind. It doesn't belong in my home nor in my relationships. Relationships are hard enough as it is.

i know Mame ..
but they can't blame us for being hard .. its all base to experiences that we have been through ..
and they can't simply judge us without knowing our hard life ..

i've learned from what i've been through .. that's why i've been too damn hard girl