what makes man date a transgender?

Hi members,

I'm curious on regarding topic, may you share your views and opinions from mans perspectives...

thanks and enjoy sharing thoughts..

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lovingsoul...
bad experienced I take it as a good lesson,
good times I saved it as good memories..

love, peace and happiness..

As for me there is no difference between girl and TG if I like her...
When I met my first TG I didn't know that she is transgender...

I agree with Fly... I really don't see an important diference between TG girl and a biological girl. To me the connection is made between two people and from there if love is what you feel, then it is there.
I can't really respond as far as sexual matters are concerned because I have never been with a TG girl in that way. The one TG girl I did date in my life I never knew it untill after we were dating for a month when she decided to tell me about her past. At first I was startled, but I quickly came to realize that I cared about the person I was with regaurdless of some biological differences.
That might have been a few years ago, but I still remember the experince and it is in fact the reason why I feel the way I do today about TG girls not being any different. Besides, love is love, and that's really what I'm looking for. Anything else I'm sure I can get used to and appreciate with and open mind.

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well i had 2 previous relations with tg girls.
The first one, i only found out after 6 months when we were having sex for the first time. I didn't know what i saw that moment, i was shocked. After some talking with her i had sex with her, this was my first time. But i loved her so much that it didn't matter any more she had a penis and after a few times i really enjoyed it.

So for me it doesn't matter any more. I like tg girls but there isn't a big chance to find one here in Belgium. So i just keep trying

Yeah, I'm much the same. For me, it's personality and femininity that are the main points of attraction.

Having said that, I think TS/TG are more aware of being feminine, and take the time to get a grasp on that. I also think TS/TG are more sensitive to a partner's feelings. Most have been through hard times, which matures them, and also means they become more aware of the consequences of actions. The othere thing is, being not part of the blinkered mainstream, they are more accepting of differences in their partners.

I also think a lot of guys are just curious too.

cheers,
Tony

thanks guys for sharing your views...

maybe I should add more question here, Seems TG and biological are not much different, is there any guy here know that he only want to be with TG as their life partner? and perhaps you could share what makes you decide to look for, to married one or to be with TG as your life partner?

any thoughts or view?

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lovingsoul...
bad experienced I take it as a good lesson,
good times I saved it as good memories..

love, peace and happiness..

Interesting question LS...

For my part I dont distinguish between TG / GG when it comes to dating, no, I look at a person who is a potential date and look for personality, intellect, an open heart & attractivness (sorry... I am a guy after all...), I dont see "birth" gender as part of the issue, if she looks, thinks, acts, and lives as a girl... then that is how I see her, wether she is TG or GG, it dosn't matter to me...

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RomanticLover…

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This in an interesting topic.

To be totally honest, I have always been suspicious of men who actively seek TG. I always question the motives. My fear is that they are only interested in me because I am TG and not for me as a person. I have similar feelings about bisexual men too although the other thing that worries me about bi men is that there is always the risk of them getting an 'itch that I can't scratch' - wanting to have sex with a man. What happens when they feel the urge to have sex with a man? I could only have a long term relationship with someone I was truly in love with and the thought of having a partner being unfaithful is terrifying. I guess that is the risk you take in any relationship.

The little fantasy in my head says that a nice (100% straight) man will come along and fall in love with me then find out I am TG, think about it for a day, then decide he can't live without me and to hell with consequences.

The reality is that human sexuality is not that straight forward and I can't judge a man based on how I perceive his sexuality as that makes me no different to the people who judge me because of my transexuality. It also defies my own belief that most men, given the chance would engage in sexual contact with another man even if it is only because there are no women available. 'Any port in a storm'.

This posting reminds me of a quote I posted here recently. It is rather fitting I think:

“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly” Sam Keen

I have the same feeling aswell.

About your fantasy.. hold on your dreams and fantasy it might be a reality one day.. best wishes and may your wish and dreams come true.

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lovingsoul...
bad experienced I take it as a good lesson,
good times I saved it as good memories..

love, peace and happiness..

Hi Loving Soul,

Thank you, but I think sometimes that the fantasy can become a barrier to achieving the reality. If your in love your in love.