So does this happen to you too?

Well today was the straw that broke the camels back.

I am becoming very disenchanted.

A LB that I added to messenger today in her first message said:
Hi I am here for you

So I said Hi how are you?

She said:

tomorrow is the 5th of july
Its my birthday
no food
no gift
no job

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In my opinion she forgot to add:
No dignity
No self respect
No honor
Not worth anyone's time!

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I complimented her and thanked her for such a wonderful introduction.
It made me feel so warm and bubbly and cozy!

She made me feel like I am walking through the slums with beggars on both sides of the sidewalk with their hands out.

Now I am supposed to want to marry someone like this?

So am I just having bad luck here or is this just a place where beggars and vagrants gather looking for a handout?

USMale, is she from the Philippines? It's a typical introduction for them.

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Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery.
Today is a gift. That's why it's called the present.

Yes they are.

They are all simple and they all want Mr right, love, marriage and to live happily ever after which more correctly translates into Mr who will put them on the payroll.

I have heard countless starving, dying family members, hospital bills, phone bills, internet, new computer etc etc etc. or Hi I am a LB we arent married yet? Umm.... I am like.....is it ok if we get to know each others name first?

Hate to say it but that has been my experience in the short time I have been here.

I don't think you can generalize. I know/have known Pinoy girls who are very industrious and hold down respectable jobs/careers. Those who make no qualms about declaring their apparent destitute status from the get-go are definitely gold diggers or scammers. Most who truly are in the lower socioeconomic bracket are usually more humble about asking for 'a little help' and generally wait to build a trusting relationship first before passing around the 'collection plate'!

I do agree though that the willingness to ask for money correlates with Filipino girls far more than, say, Thai girls. But I think this comes down to cultural, and more specifically, theological differences in the respective peoples. Scammers are scammers regardless of origin.

i heard quite alot too from my chatters friends.. i dont want to mention countries but you could guess... n happened to others countries which is not fall in the 3rd world countries.. just be careful you guys!!

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lovingsoul...
bad experienced I take it as a good lesson,
good times I saved it as good memories..

love, peace and happiness..

I got taken in much slower than that, got chatting with one, she wanted me to stop going on the dating site, kept telling me how much she missed me and loved me, and yes alarm bells were ringing. The came the clincher, her house had burned down and could I send her some money to get food, but I didn't fall for it, although my conscience did prick a little, what if this one was genuine!!

Another I got chatting to was told up front, that if she asked for money then we part company, to which she said she would never do such a thing, then a while later she did, so goodbye it was.

I'm a big boy and I'm well aware that these people are out there, but it does dampen your enthusiasm a little. I use the electric interweb as an introduction tool, but there is no way I would commit myself to anyone I haven't met, I'd need to date a girl for while before I committed myself to a lifetime partnership.

Thai girls have a different approach, they won't ask for money up front, but you are expected to support their family if you do enter into a relationship, something they don't tell you about when you first meet them.

So tread carefully in your quest for love, or you'll have your heart trodden into the dirt all too easily.

Pete

LoL!

Don't mean to prejudge you sir, but I think you may need to send more 'astute' signals if they're using tactics as insultingly blatant as that!