What? Transgender! "His GF is a transgender!" What say you?

hello everyone..

I was busy with lots of stuff lately.. Here I'm back to share something from my past and from my friends experience in dating scene or perhaps I should put it as dilema we as transgender persons going through in our dating/relationship life..

The topic is regarding "Are you ready to take what ever challenges dating or having a relationship with transgender persons?"

Here are some dilema from my personal experience, observation and through reading bout what most transgender person going through in their dating/relationship about man they are with.

1. Worried if people close with them know they dating a transgender person.

2. How would people think of them.

3. Travel? some transgender person will have passport or document written that they are male on thier documents.

4. Family acceptance?

5. Gossip at work place!

6. When going out, some people might say something about your girl as a transgender person.

7. Not every transgender are passable, or some part of them still not qualifed to be passable . What would you do or how you handle with it?

8. Live in country do not accept same-sex marriage.

Ok.. those are things that I could recall so far.. basically what I'm try to share or would like to hear from you guys out there are...

Are you ready to stand for your girl, and answer or deal with those issues mention above?

Many transgender person had broken heart when their man leave them because of those issues, what say you?

How would you handle those gossips, are you ready to go through all these?

How about your social standing?

How would you explain to people you close with?

OR perhaps

Are you ready to face all challenges you will go through by having a transgender person partner?

Be a Man to stand for your loved one?

Put aside your EGO for the name of LOVE?

share you opinions and views.. Gentlemen and beautiful ladies, what say you?

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lovingsoul...
bad experienced I take it as a good lesson,
good times I saved it as good memories..

love, peace and happiness..

I don't know how different I am from everyone else, but for me I would have to say that I would stand up and defend the person I love.

I don't really care about what people I don't know think or say unless it hurts someone I care about, then I will do or say something.

As far as gossip at the work place I really don't care either. If they can't talk to my face then they don't mean enough to me to matter.

As for my family and friends... My friends I have made very sure are very understanding and are very close to me that nothing could realy hurt our friendships and they would be very open with me and very understanding. My family for the most part would still care about me and accept the person I am with as long as I love them they will know that I am happy and the person I am with must be a great person in order to have me.

I know my country in most areas they don't really permit or recognize those marriges, but that just means I would go somewhere else to get married. That's no trouble if it's really important.

Now as for my ego... it would only get stronger being with the person I love because I would be so proud to say that I am with such an amazing person that the rest of the world wouldn't mean much to me.

I am who I am. I am very happy and secure with who and what I am. I just hope someday I find the right person to be with. To me it dosen't matter what race, culture, or religion they are really... to me its about the individual person I am with.

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All anyone can be is themselves

Interesting post LS

Well... I guess I could break into some long winded tirade that will go on for pages but I won't...

If you honestly love some, one you will do any thing in your power to protect them...
I have always been an unorthodox person, I have never worried about gossip and I will always protect the one I love to the very best of my ability... if my friends cant accept the one I love then they really aren't my friends... if my family can't accept my lover then I guess I wont be talking to them as much as I would like, if my co-workers cant accept my lover then I will take them to court for discrimination... when in public I will hold her hand and kiss her openly... if she is insulted I will defend her honour with all my heart...

I guess my signature block tells you all how I think...

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RomanticLover…

Love comes, Love goes, but it never owns...

Never be ashamed of what is in your heart

hello "lovingsoul"

im replying representing for all over transsexual in this world..

being a person , u shouldnt be hipocrite .. if u do like ts , u will accept us as a human being.. fuck to what all ppl around u say.. they can say whatever they want.. do they feed u ? do they care about what do u want in your life? do they give u money ? if dont, i have a simple word for that.. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS !!! to your family , u can try to explain to them about your feeling which may make them understand your desire for life ( in a nice way ) if u dont dare to do that , forget about having a relation with ts... u just can have a good time with us by ts who provide an escort service.. ( like me )

this kind of matters make me choose this job.. mans are use to have this as their excuses to have a relation with us..( in my own words , just want to have a sex ) and this is ridiculous .. now is going to year 2008 .. its not in 50s or 60s anymore.. i believe ppl understand that for nowadays

im sorry if my words sounds rude.. but this is the fact for the real life

my apology ,
TS Shiera Halliwell

Thanks JJHunt, RL and Sheira for sharing your opinions..

Keep the PEACE and spread the LOVE..

Happy New Year!!

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lovingsoul...
bad experienced I take it as a good lesson,
good times I saved it as good memories..

love, peace and happiness..

hi lovingsoul,

well for me it woudl be very simple. When i would find love and she was a tg lady i wouldn't mind and i wouldn't mind what other people would say. Fact is that we are only a few years on this world and that we all have to try find happiness. My parents are very cool in this issue. They say that there is only one important thing and that is that i will find happiness and they just don't care about the sex of my partner.
i wouldn't mind if anyone knew i was married with a tg lady, ok when they find out maybe they will be curious about her, so what, after 2-3 times staring, most of them will accept her and go on with there own lives again.

so in the end only one thing matters : being happy that you have found the person you want to grow old with...

bye,
rob

hi rob,

thanks for reply.. yes the most important is happiness.. good you have cool family..

too bad and sad there are guys that too protective over their social standing, ego, self image but still want to be with tg girl.. for me, f@#k what people want to think about you(guy) be with tg girl or I f@#k(leave) you,your ego and stuff..

INDEED!!

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lovingsoul...
bad experienced I take it as a good lesson,
good times I saved it as good memories..

love, peace and happiness..

I think we can be too quick to judge a guy for being concerned about being in an official relationship with a ts.

We need to remember they may be faced for the first time with something we have had a lifetime to come to terms with.

M.

"I know im not perfect
And I don't live to be
But before you start pointing fingers
Make sure your hands are clean"
- Bob Marley

First time there is an exception but if more then 5 tg girls, F@#k them!! hehehe..

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lovingsoul...
bad experienced I take it as a good lesson,
good times I saved it as good memories..

love, peace and happiness..